Dating offers an exciting opportunity for teens to explore relationships and enjoy memorable experiences. However, for some, dating can be a frightening experience that encompasses fear and violence.

Teen dating violence is a hidden epidemic and it’s happening right here in our community. It’s more than just arguments or jealousy. It’s become harmful behaviors that hurt individuals both physically and mentally.

Let’s shed some light on what teen dating violence is, how widespread it is in San Antonio, and how to spot the danger signs.

What You Should Know About Teen Dating Violence

Teen dating violence is when one person in a dating relationship hurts the other person on purpose. It can be hitting, yelling, forcing them to do things they don’t want to, or even stalking them online.

This is a serious issue because it can harm someone’s body and mind. Just like adults, teens can experience this kind of violence and it’s something everyone should take seriously.

Prevalence of Teen Dating Violence in San Antonio

In our city, the numbers are telling a story of hidden problems:

• 1 in 11 teens say someone they were dating hurt them on purpose.
• 1 in 5 high school girls has been hit or forced into something sexual by a partner.
• And 1 in 3 teens knows a friend who has been physically hurt by their partner.

These are more than just stats. They’re a wake-up call that teen dating violence is more common than many of us think.

Recognizing the Signs of Abuse

Knowing what to look for can help stop the violence. Here are some warning signs:

• Physical harm: Hitting, shoving, or hurting in any physical way.
• Jealousy and possessiveness: Acting overly jealous or trying to control who the other person sees or talks to.
• Isolation: Keeping them away from friends and family.
• Monitoring communications: Checking texts, calls, or social media without permission.
• Gaslighting and manipulation: Making them question their feelings or reality.
• Verbal insults or threats: Using words to hurt, threaten, or scare them.
• Forced sexual activities: Making them do sexual things they don’t consent to.
• Sudden changes: Acting differently than before such as dressing differently or losing interest in things they used to love.
• Unexplained injuries: Having bruises or injuries they can’t or won’t explain.
• Pulling away: Not hanging out with friends or joining in activities as much.

Impact of Teen Violence in Partnerships

When San Antonio teens experience violence in their relationships, it can change their lives in significant ways. They might start feeling depressed or scared all the time. They may also find it hard to trust people or even hurt themselves physically.

These feelings can follow them into adulthood, making things like school, work, or future relationships tough. That’s why it’s so important to understand this problem is affecting teens but everyone should be involved in finding a solution.

Preventing Teen Dating Violence

Stopping teen dating violence starts with talking about it. Here are some ways we can all help:

• Education: Learning about healthy relationships and respect should start early.
• Open Conversations: If you’re a parent, talk to your teens about dating violence. Let them know they can come to you with anything.
• Setting Examples: Adults should show what healthy relationships look like.
• Support Groups: Schools and communities can have groups where teens support each other.
• Know the Signs: Everyone should learn the signs of abuse so they can help friends who might be in trouble.

How to Get Help in San Antonio

If you or someone you know is dealing with teen dating violence, you’re not alone. San Antonio has resources ready to help:

• Rape Crisis Center: 210-349-7273
• Bexar County Family Justice Center: 210-631-0100
• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 / text LOVEIS to 22522
• Family Violence Prevention Services: 210-930-3669
• San Antonio Behavioral Healthcare: Call us at 210-541-5300 for advice, support, and to find out about services that can help.

Schools often have counselors who know how to help teens in these situations. And there are local organizations focused on helping teens get through tough times.

Taking Steps Towards a Safer Tomorrow

Teen dating violence is a big deal. But together, we can make a difference.

If you see the signs, don’t wait. Talk about it, reach out for help, and stand up against violence. It’s about keeping everyone safe and respected.

Looking for help or know someone who is? Reach out to San Antonio Behavioral Healthcare today.